The "I just wanna be friends" Frog

One Sunday last fall, I was sitting in church and this guy got up to say something. I immediately was so attracted to him because he was super cute. Over the next few weeks, I would see him at activities but was always to scared to actually talk to him, so one day, I came home and told my roommates that we needed a game plan. How was I going to make this boy that didn’t even know I existed want to ask me out? That Sunday at church, I was just standing in the hall and the boy walked by me. I could tell he checked me out but he just kept walking by. He walked by two more times and then finally walked up to me and introduced himself. I could tell he was so nervous; it was actually really cute.  That night, I sent him an email about how nice it was to meet him at church. In the time it took for my message to send and my page to refresh, he had sent me a friend request. It was awesome to see that he was as excited as I was.
That Friday, he asked me to go on a date. We went to dinner at Olive Garden, my favorite restaurant, and then he told me he wanted to take me home to meet his family. Normally, I’d think that was a little weird, but I was totally digging this guy so I was okay with it. When we walked in his mom came to give me a hug. His dad said, “It is nice to finally meet you.” It was obvious he had been talking about me. Sadly, early the next morning, I was leaving for California for two weeks for Christmas vacation. He talked to me the whole day I drove down, and called me every day the whole two weeks I was gone. We would talk for HOURS every day. One day I think we talked for four hours! The more I talked to him and got to know him, the more I liked him and wanted to be with him. He even convinced me to come back home earlier than I had planned so that I would be with him for New Years Eve. The minute I got back from California, he came over to my apartment to get me. We went on a date and it was amazing. We finished off the night with a kiss that was amazing! The next day he came and got me early in the morning and we spent all day together, even late into the night. The next day was New Years Eve and he came over as was planned. Then at 10 pm he just left. I was so upset that I had come back from California early only to spend New Years alone. He called me right after midnight to tell me that he didn’t want anything romantic with me. He said that things were moving too fast and the whole time he had only wanted to be friends and that I just read into things. I told him that I did not have a single guy friend who would call me every day just to talk for hours and hours and that he totally gave me mixed signals, but he continued to say we were just friends.
Now, the issue is not that he wasn’t interested in me. I could have gotten over that. The reason he is on my “Frog List” is what followed in the months after he gave me the “just friends” line. In the four months following, he continued to come over at least once a week, sometimes more. Every time he came over, we would cuddle, sometimes kissing. He acted like he liked me. He continued with the mixed signals, to the point that I had a hard time wanting to date anyone else because all I wanted to do was be with him. The one thing I would like to teach all boys is to not tell a girl one thing but then DO another and then get mad at her when she is confused! Ultimately, the past five months have just been a waste of my time and heartbreak because he still claims that we are just friends. I don’t know if he just got scared or what, but I know that I did not create his feelings in my head. Oh well.